Collective care

Hello everyone,

I write this note on July 1st in the midst of the trauma visited upon us by the grim discovery of unmarked graves of children, we stand with bowed heads and folded palms in support of Indigenous communities, survivors and social justice warriors who have worked for generations to speak truth to power.  The grace and resilience of the peoples of Tk’emlúps te Secwépemc First Nation, Cowessess First Nation, Ktunaxa Nation and all Indigenous communities across Canada continue to evoke an urgent clarion call to action demanding collective accountability from settlers, and federal and provincial governments. The centrality of violence in the ongoing racism and bigotry in Canada, leads me to meditate on the value of collective care in the critical work of decolonization. Bearing witness to experiences of violence in the context of national and global anti-violence struggles can itself generate a deep trauma that blocks our growth.   As a non-Indigenous settler and a racialized woman who teaches social justice, I am interested in the politics of care and the decolonization of wellness.  How do we stay nourished in our collective actions in this reality of widespread trauma? 

I started examining this idea of collective care in an organic way when I became a mother in my early 20’s. Mothering can be at once a difficult and divine daily practice of care that demands critical self-awareness, humility, forgiveness, imagination, courage and community. As a young mother, I reflected with gratitude on the communal way in which I was raised by many Brown and Black women and men who taught, loved, scolded, yelled, sang and laughed me up. Today, my daughter and I are thinking of all the Indigenous children who didn’t experience the love and nurturance of community. The sense of loss is unbearable. The poignant slogan: “Every Child Matters” remains in our hearts as we consider our role in place-based solidarity. As BIPOC people, it is critical to consider the politics of care so that we can stand together in healing and strength.

I recently facilitated a research project with an Indigenous colleague to shine a light on diverse student voices who spoke about the link between self-care and collective care. Many of my students are training to work frontline with communities impacted by race, class, migration, stigma of disability, and gender-based injustices to remedy oppression. They experience the commodification of self-care and wellness.  I shared with them that only focusing on my own body and mind does not validate my cultural experience, life experiences nor my collectivist understanding of care work. I tell stories about paths lit by bright stars in the galaxy of activism work: Audre Lorde, bell hooks, Angela Davis, Malcolm X, B.R. Ambedkar, Arundhati Roy, Vandana Shiva, Wangari Maathai, Winona LaDuke and Robin Wall Kimmerer. We discussed self-care in the context of their lives as they struggle to pay rising tuition fees, work in precarious jobs, raise children, manage settlement-related stressors while being in school. We discussed self-care in the context of historical genocide of Indigenous and Black lives, and the toxicity of unexamined trauma in relation to care work.  They asked important questions: How am I supposed to self-care when I live in poverty? Is the concept of self-care just another commodity accessible to a privileged few? How does my self-care impact my ability to weave positive change across communities? This research revealed that although we talk about the value of “self-care,” we are not effectively teaching radical practices or tending authentic spaces where wellness can be an act of liberating ourselves and others.

We must go beyond framing self-care as an individual or professional pursuit for stress reduction and managing workplace trauma. Mainstream discourse about self-care rarely addresses systemic inequities that prevent healing solely by focusing on our own self. As practitioners interested in community health, we have to disrupt notions that encourage us to better adjust to the systems that are the source of our problems. This is where community care enters the conversation. Cooperation, collectivism, culture and traditions, mentorship, and activism have often provided powerful forms of care. Emphasizing the interconnectedness between individual and broader community healing has been critical in the history of various activism movements.

As we ponder the stark truth about our collective history, I encourage you to think about some collective care actions you might take that will feed your spirit. Here is a link to a wonderful conversation between Dr. Cindy Blackstock and Pam Palmater that shines a light on how we can collectively “step over the edge” to honour our ancestors’ dreams for us: 

Cindy Blackstock on Justice and Equality for First Nations Children

I am also sharing my research report with you to inspire collective revisioning of how we think about self-care in relation to community care.   If you do find a few minutes to wander through the report, please drop me a quick line.  I am curious about how you practice care as an act of liberation. 

Here is a quote from Angela Davis that sings to me:

“I had to recognize the importance of emphasizing the collective character of the self.  Radical self-care means that we are able to bring our entire selves into the movement…and move beyond the trauma.  Longevity is important.  Not simply individual longevity.  We have to imagine ourselves as connected to people who came before us and to those who will come after us.”  

Bridging Self-Care and Community Care: Integrated Practices for Student Wellness and Resilience


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Palmater, P. (2020, Dec. 11). Land Defenders & Water Protectors in a Pandemic Age (Webinar). Retrieved from: https:// fernwoodpublishing.ca/book/warrior-life

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Things fall apart

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Things Fall Apart.  I have been re-reading two books with these words in the title – my dog-eared copy of Chinua Achebe’s Things Fall Apart that I read as a young girl in Kenya and Pema Chodron’s book of wisdom When Things Fall Apart.  Both books remind me that suffering has always been and will always be; which allows me to reflect on the vulnerability and tenderness of life, and guides me to connect in authentic ways with the suffering of others.  How do we collectively work through our arrogance that we can always access pleasure and escape pain?  How do we undo the notion that others are responsible for our collective suffering?  How do we collectively unlearn our desire to hide from the anguish of other sentient beings? 

Human service organizations, social justice activists, and frontline workers are demonstrating the meaning of loving kindness and courage during this time of emotional contagion.  They are carrying our collective suffering like mythical cranes, as they have done every single day and across boundaries.  Embodying calm amidst panic can be stressful on individuals and organizations.  Mary Ann Proulx, who manages our local Street Outreach Van program, speaks of individuals who are wandering our streets with no access to homes and with limited sources for community meals.  Homelessness denies access to even the most basic needs.  “Where does one socially isolate when you don’t have a home?” “Where does one access a washroom when all public spaces are closed?” Mary Ann reflects on the critical gaps that the van is bridging at this time.  As more people use emergency services, the generosity and creativity of frontline teams are also tested.  Across the world in Delhi, at the Naz Care Home for children living with HIV, the donations have fallen dramatically this year as people struggle to make ends meet.  It has been challenging to keep the children nourished in body and spirit.  Yet, Kalyani Subramaniam, the Chief Operating Officer at Naz, shares heroic stories of continued service.  Kalyani shone a light on the mentoring and collective resolve of the care home. 

As an instructor at a community college, I spend a lot of time with students and often reflect on the curriculum we offer to the budding heroes in our classrooms.  Many students struggle with poverty, poor mental health, and numerous life stressors. How do we nurture the inner world of these young warriors so that they remain strong for themselves and others on the frontlines?  How do we create institutional reserves of wellness?  How do we integrate and institutionalize a DNA of resilience, wisdom, and discernment rather than chasing a meteor of theories, fostering a Gradgrindian devotion to outputs, and celebrating empire-building at any cost?   We need to disrupt the cultural notion that taking care of our inner world is an indulgence that we occasionally practice.  We need to internalize that tending carefully to our internal landscape is crucial to nurturing our ethical and emotional intelligence.  We need practical tools and training that embody wellness at all levels of our institutions so that we can see, hold and work through suffering every single day.  Suffering is around us on a daily basis and we need to cultivate strategies of wellness as a foundational practice.  We often speak of self-care in human service work, but do we teach specific skills, model this behaviour, and assess our institutional competence in this area?  

Reading Audre Lorde’s The Cancer Journals, I once again came across this quote: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”  In the current global context, this is an important reminder to nurture our fragile hearts and minds.  

Sādhana, mīmāṃsā, and pratipaksha bhavana are Sanskrit words embedded in the ancient yoga sūtras.  Loosely translated to mean deepening practice, critical reflection, and cognitive reframing, these words have shaped my experience when things have fallen apart.   A deepening of simple rituals, daily encounters with yoga, and spending time walking with Zevie dog in forest trails have helped me regulate my wellbeing.  I have intentionally turned my attention towards the work of those who are healing us towards thoughtful action.

As we prepare to step out of a world frozen in time, I would love to hear your soulful thoughts that might help us take action to heal our planet with tenderness and strength.  If you choose to learn more about the work of the Street Outreach Van in York Region, click here: https://www.torontocentralhealthline.ca/displayservice.aspx?id=132003

If you choose to learn more about the Naz Foundation (India), follow their twitter link here:

https://twitter.com/Naz_Foundation 

My friend Beth Jordan has curated a video blog called Amplify to hold space for our powerful ideas.  Here is a link to some ponderings: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ow_RsxUDu8k&t=1s

Choosing love as an act of courage

My daughter and I recently visited my nieces in New Delhi, India, and each year I visit, we make time to reflect about the joys and politics of our lives.  These critical thinkers are all in their twenties and so thoughtful, caring and deliciously irreverent.

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Our reflections are particularly poignant on the heels of the tragic shootings in America, and the bigotry displayed by the U.S. President in shunning racialized Congresswomen.  The writing was on the wall after a racist presidential rally that stirred up hate speech from the crowds.  This white supremacist trope is an old insidious tale ratcheted up by settlers on stolen land.  More ongoing erasure of the fact that we all collectively occupy lands colonized and pillaged from Indigenous people.  Sadly, the worst tragedies in human history are rooted in such hateful rhetoric.

Yet, such dehumanizing strategies are gathering storm – from Washington to New Delhi to Toronto and Montreal.  If you are an Indigenous mother in Canada, you understand that the state’s failure to protect women, girls and children from murder or child poverty is rooted in cultural genocide.  If you wear a hijab or turban or yarmulke, Quebec’s secularism law reminds you that you are unwelcome.  Under such political hegemony, Jagmeet Singh, the Canadian-born and current leader of the NDP party, cannot work for the Quebec government with his degree from Osgoode Law School. Meanwhile, if you are a refugee in Toronto, the Ford government has cut legal aid so drastically that you will face even more barriers to fight your case to remain here.  Across the earth, in Kashmir, a beautiful eight-year-old Muslim child was brutally raped and murdered, and Hindutva fundamentalists respond with macabre rallies in support of the accused.  Listening to fiendish news debates that tally rapes of girls from Hindu versus Muslim homes to justify brutality, one wonders how politicians can defend any argument where girls are used as weapons of war.  Heart-wrenching stories of violence like this are commonplace in Kashmir – one of the most heavily occupied military zones in the world.  As I’m writing this, India has annexed Kashmir by revoking a law established 70 years ago to allow Kashmiris a notion of autonomy to make their own laws.  India and Pakistan are on the brink of war again while the world is conveniently too busy to care.  Besides, the pace of Tweets from the Whitehouse keeps everyone busy in the home of the brave, where the wheel of trauma spins daily to grind out ugly truths that live beneath the skin of the “free”.  Every day, the family separation policy forces children from their parents as a state tool to punish vulnerable refugees for entering America.  Should we share with our leaders that Turkey hosted 3.8 million asylum seekers and Uganda hosted 1.2 million asylum seekers in 2018?  Scripts that tell people of colour or ethnic minorities to “go back to crime infested countries” or “love it or leave it” are lacking in imagination but also terrifying, because it makes us wonder what corrupt leaders are plotting while they keep the masses busy with witch hunts.  We are weary of all the divisive agendas from governments across the globe, but we are awake and we see you.

Whether it is racism, ableism, classism, homophobia, transphobia, patriarchy or misogyny that spills into our lives, it feels like we are always armoured up for battle wherever we are in the world today.  It seems we don the role of yodhas in response to violence in our daily lives.  My nieces in Delhi talk about negotiating what they can and cannot share about their lives in their circles and the misogyny they have to face on a daily basis.  Just as my Canadian-born daughter who makes her home in Montreal relives stories about social spaces where she feels like an outsider and the shaming she experiences for being a racialized woman in her beloved country.  I consider out loud my own acts of resistance, when encountering “othering” in various systems – from social circles to board rooms to community activism.  We ask ourselves, “what are we allowed to do as daughters, mothers, activists and leaders in the countries we call our home and who benefits from keeping us out?”

During these inter-generational conversations that center our narratives as women of colour, we share strategies that uplift our experiences of the world.  How do we become thoughtful mentors and honest guides who can lift each other up and also lovingly hold each other accountable?  How do we embrace our beautiful, complex, intersectional journeys and hold space without judgment?  How do we celebrate our bodies and liberate ourselves in the context of colonizing, culture appropriating and patriarchal messaging? How do we shine in on our own stories of resilience, rather than center the voices of those who steal our collective power?  How do we find each other across arbitrary borders and vast socio-cultural divides in meaningful ways?  How do we include love in our intentions with ourselves and each other?

Through our generous inter-generational dialogue, we endeavour to liberate our narratives of strength.  We continue speaking up against white supremacy, colonization and hate, and interrupt patriarchal societal constraints that tether us.  We look to powerful mentors to guide us towards truth.  We choose love to help us see each other, and to find our way through difficult conversations.  My daughter Tara and I would like to share just a few favourite resources that help us to laugh, cry, rage, love, and act – please share yours with us and let’s light up some courageous conversations with love.

Books/Poetry:

  • Audre Lorde - Sister Outsider

  • Arundhati Roy – My Seditious Heart

  • Wangari Maathai – Unbowed: A Memoir

  • Lee Maracle – Bobbi Lee Indian Rebel

  • Alice Walker – The Way Forward Is With A Broken Heart

  • Winona LaDuke – The Winona LaDuke Chronicles

  • bell hooks – Black Looks, All About Love, and When Angels Speak of Love

  • Meena Kandasamy – The Gypsy Goddess

  • Robin Wall Kimmerer – Braiding Sweet Grass

  • Dionne Brand – Bread Out of Stone

  • Joy Kogawa – Obasan

  • Chinua Achebe – Arrow of God and Things Fall Apart

  • Richard Wagamese – Embers-One Ojibway’s Meditations

  • Toni Morrison – The Bluest Eye and Beloved

  • Gloria Anzaldua & Cherrie Moraga – This Bridge Called My Back

  • Irving Abella & Harold Troper – None Is Too Many

  • Jhumpa Lahiri – Lowland

  • James Baldwin – Go Tell It on the Mountain

  • Fatima Asghar – If They Come for Us

  • Tanuja Desai Hidier – Born Confused

  • Angela Davis – Freedom Is A Constant Struggle

  • Brittney Cooper – Eloquent Rage

 

Videos/Podcasts/Blogs:

 

Music:

  • Nina Simone – Albums: Nina Simone In Concert (1964)

  • Miriam Makeba – Pata Pata

  • Buffy Sainte-Marie – It’s My Way

  • Lauryn Hill – The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill

  • Aretha Franklin – The Essential Aretha Franklin

  • Erykah Badu – Mama’s Gun

  • Oumou Sangare - Moussolou

  • k d lang – Hymns of the 49th Parallel

  • Sade – Diamond Life

  • Etta James – Rocks The House

  • M.I.A. – Kala

  • Tracy Chapman – Tracy Chapman

  • Indigo Girls – 1200 Curfews

  • Solange – A Seat At The Table

  • Lizz Wright – Dreaming Wide Awake, Freedom & Surrender

  • Jamila Woods – Legacy! Legacy!

  • Blood Orange – Negro Swan

  • Ibeyi – Ibeyi

  • Seinabo Sey – I Am A Dream

  • Princess Nokia – 1992

  • MUNA – About U

  • duendita – Direct Line to My Creator

  • Cecile McLorin Salvant – For One To Love

UNHCR. (2018).  Global Trends: Forced Displacement in 2018.  Retrieved from: https://www.unhcr.org/statistics/unhcrstats/5d08d7ee7/unhcr-global-trends-2018.html?query=canada